Letters to the Eyeball

Letters to the Eyeball

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Why Do I Want My Wife to Take Control in Bed?

A married man’s quiet fantasy, a lifetime of shame, and the truth about male submission.

Nov 15, 2025
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Dear Eyeball,

I’m writing this because I don’t know who else I can talk to without sounding like a degenerate or blowing up my marriage.

My wife and I have been together for 12 years. We love each other, we communicate well, and things are good — except in the bedroom.

Not because we’re bored, but because I want something I’m terrified to admit.

I have this…

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